Christmas is finally over and time is steaming ahead on to the new year. I reflect on the year that has passed and all that I have achieved. Two major achievements come to mind: I completed my Master of Business Administration and I became a Life Coach. But on the other hand: I’m still single at 36.
As any typical life coach would do, I decide to take some time out to think about my life and where it’s heading. In silence, lots of questions start to rise in my mind. Am I happy being alone? Do I want kids? Will I ever get married? Is this the right path for me? Can I do better in the next relationship? Is there a place in this world for independent women? Where do we fit in society? Does society scorn single females?
But then, the questions start to change. Do I really want kids? Do I even like kids? Do I even want to be married right now? The answer surprisingly is NO. No, I don’t want to get married and have kids. It may be nice to be in a loving relationship but the reason behind the answer is simple. I believe in being grateful for all that I have right now. Being grateful for the experiences in my life whether it is good or bad. I’m grateful that I have this self fulfilling job where I can reach out to people and help those in need at any point in time. And because I’m grateful, happiness follows its path.
I live my life to the fullest. I love the freedom that being single allows you. Consider this:
- I can travel on a whim – being single I have the freedom of choice as to where I want to live in the world and where I choose my next vacation.
- I can work on myself – being fit and healthy is a priority for me. Too many couples end up sitting on the couch ordering take outs night after night.
- I can sleep in peace and quiet – no snoring at 3AM in the morning. The kind of snoring that sounds like a freight train slicing my bedroom in half.
- I am independent – Okay, so I know that interdependent’s is important, but being independent can also teach how to be self reliant in any situation in life.
- I stay in touch with friends – I am able to stay in touch with both male and female friends without having to explain who that person is and why I am want to spend time with them.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that relationships are terrible and you should go out immediately and file for a divorce. On the contrary. Relationships are beautiful when its with the right person and at the right time in your life. But embrace the now, and embrace your single life. It’s the best thing you can do for yourself. You will find peace and happiness in your soul that you will not find by chasing marriage. Be free and be who you are. You do not have to apologize or explain why you are single. Be free and have fun for life is short and if we cannot experience happiness even in our single-hood, then it will escape us when we are married. Be free and learn to love yourself first in the same way that you would love your partner. Be free and be happy for all that you are and all that you want to be. Do not ask for permission to have the things you want. Go out there and get it.
I am so grateful to be single and happy at the age of 36. I have lived my life to the fullest and experienced so many wonderful things that life could offer. You never know when I will meet the right person. The one that will sweep me off my feet and will be able to make my life just that much better. But, until then, here’s to 2018. Happy New Year and may this be the best one yet.